A Community For Homosexuals Who Don't "Fit In"
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December 29 2012
Date:1238a - 12|29|12
Subject:New member

Hi there, I was wondering if this group was still active?

My Name's Tammy. I'm 27 years old and I have Cerebral Palsy, I use a power Wheelchair to get around. Currently single- Let's just say I've had a string of bad relationships. I am also a lesbian.

Currently looking to make new friends. Anywhere is fine, but I'm a Michigan girl.

A writer at heart, I'm also attempting to learn game design and programming.

Anything you want to know, just ask.

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July 05 2009
Date:1015p - 07|05|09
Subject:The Community, isolation...

I don't like how when you know one person from "the gay community" you know so much more of it within days, that everyone is ultimately from the same web. Do you think this is similar to how "the straight community" is? It is like a club I am not allowed to join because of some invisible defect I have, but it's only me that forces myself out.

I also feel dirty that I have potentially missed out on something. I'm just living a salad life, it sucks.

It doesn't feel like I was with him for the night, it felt like I was with the whole city.

I'm rather incoherent, I thought I'd post a snippet to a dead community anyway

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May 25 2009
Date:139a - 05|25|09
Subject:Come along with us on «Pride Parade» to Israel (from June, 6 till June, 14th)!

Friends! We invite guys and girls to take part in «Pride Parade» in Israel. It will take place on June, 12-th in Tel Aviv. If you have a desire to swing during procession by an iridescent flag of LGBT-community, partying on beach, join our company! «Pride Parade» in Tel Aviv is a grandiose and unprecedented gay parade on the originality. This event is accompanied with carnival show and performance of the Israeli superstars. Such as, for example, Dana International!
About 300 thousand gays, lesbians and bisexuals from different countries of the world will take part in parade! Participants will move on a beach disco after procession following on Tel Aviv. It will be a grandiose party on the bank of Mediterranean sea. And at night of gay parade it is planned and at all about 100 various thematic actions.
We have already invited the group of travelers from different countries – boys and girls. We wish to go to Israel the amicable and cheerful company. We will live in the big apartment of my friends. If you have a desire to join our company, write on constantine_23@rambler.ru
I will send all information on a trip – about where we will live as we will have a good time and how many it is necessary to take money.


January 19 2009
Date:121p - 01|19|09
Subject:Did Obama Team Play us On Bishop Robinson?

During the inauguration kick off party at the Lincoln Memorial, openly gay Bishop Gene Robinson of the Diocese of NH gave the opening prayer.

The problem is it was not televised by HBO or NPR and there were 'technical difficulties' making it nearly impossible for the crowd of 500,000 to hear a word.

Demand to know why Bishop Robinson was part of the "pre-show" and therefore not taped.

More info and contact info at http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2009/01/did-obama-team-play-us-over-bishop.html


December 23 2008
Date:1241p - 12|23|08
Subject:Diversity Lesson 101: LGBT/Queer Little People

Little People like LGBT people are considered "freaks of nature", they get stares and people misunderstand them. In looking for resources for Little LGBT People, I found virtually nothing. I decided, to make an entry to educate people about little people as well as provide as much info as I can for LGBT Little People. It is my sincere hope that LGBT Little People can find solace, comfort and community and that they can begin to network and build a foundation and support system for their own sub-section of the community.

For more info and resources on LGBT Little People, check out:

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October 02 2008
Date:429p - 10|02|08
Subject:Bob Barr for President - Gay & Lesbian Words Banned

In response to a Bob Barr for president blog entry that stated that John McCain is possibly bipolar when it comes to the issues.

I responded asking if Bob Barr was bipolar and discussed his former position against same-sex marriage for gays and lesbians. Well apparently the Bob Barr site doesn't like the words, "sex", "gay", or "lesbian".

Not surprisingly "queer" made it through, although since this post they now banned that word as well.

Here is how the text showed up before moderator approval (Since that time the post has not been authorized and has been deleted).

You voted for the “defense of marriage act” to ban same-*** marriage equality throughout the country, and now say marriage is a states issue and nobody has the right to discriminate. You tried so hard to discriminate against *** and ******* couples. You will never get my vote, to me you are a bigot, plain and simple.



September 16 2008
Date:1205p - 09|16|08
Subject:Is the Meat Industry Homophobic?

You don't have to look far to see how the meat/dairy industry perpetrate sexist and misogynist attitudes throughout their marketing campaigns as illustrated by Carol J. Adams author of the Sexual Politics of Meat. Here is her slideshow of misognyist images related to the industry. This post delves into whether they are also possibly homophobic in nature as well or just playing to gender stereotyping. I'd encourage you all to check it out and let me know your thoughts.


August 25 2008
Date:417p - 08|25|08

In the news recently has been this discussion about the Hallmark same-sex marriage cards. I am literally APPALLED that people are so ANTI these cards. I mean, seriously?! Read this article...

365 Gay News: Hallmark Wedding Cards

How ridiculous!!!!

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August 15 2008
Date:106a - 08|15|08
Subject:Gender Identity

What do people mean by the term "gender identity"?

I have looked it up but the definition doesn't make any sense, and I don't suppose everyone accepts that definition anyhow.


May 26 2008
Date:1150p - 05|26|08
Subject:DEFINE " TWINK "
Mood: irritated

I am having a discussion with an ex to the definition of TWINK.
I so want to know what everyone defines as a TWINK.

...my EX's definition:Collapse )

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May 24 2008
Date:448p - 05|24|08


Watched Beautiful Thing earlier and it got the gears grinding:

When you’re young (or younger) and gay, there can be that feeling of complete isolation (or worse), and finally that other person shows up in your life, not the one you have the crush one or whatever, but the one you connect with and who connects with you, and they tell you how they feel and you’re finally able to do the same, and that sense of isolation is just gone, that connection becomes this bond that’s so unbreakable, and this strength comes out of nowhere that makes you feel like nothing could ever be wrong again. Not realistic in the slightest, I know, when all the other crap of life turns up, but that strength is rooted there now, and there’s no way you’d ever go back to the way you were before, regardless of whatever happens down the road.

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May 23 2008
Date:1014p - 05|23|08
Subject:the thunderbolt; and the rollercoaster ride begins

When I met Jay he was 16 and I was 20. It was a thunderbolt moment.

I'm helping my younger brother build the set for a play at a community theater he works with, and I have to move a sofa to a corner of the stage. I'm at one end of the sofa, and this guy I've never met comes up to the other end, we bend our knees to lift, and as we pick it up our eyes meet.

And we stand there, kind of stunned. A thunderbolt moment. He's got hazel eyes, and he's wearing a baby blue T-shirt so his eyes just glow, and me, well, I'm just a regular guy, but he sees something.

We get a reality check from the director, who wants the sofa moved now, so we move it and set it down.

I walk over to his end. "Hey, I'm Vince," I say, and hold out my hand, which he shakes. "I'm Jay," he says.

And it's almost a year until I talk to him again.

* * * * *

I'll be recording the story of Jay and I here. Years pass; he never fades from my mind, but I want to get it all down because being with him changed me so much, brought me from the mopey guy I was into a world of bright skies and beautiful days.

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May 19 2008
Date:1250p - 05|19|08
Subject:A gay awards show. You should vote.

 MTV's LGBT channel, Logo, is proud to announce their NewNowNext awards!  It is all about gay pop-culture.  Check it out and vote for your favorites in tv, books, films and more!  Finally somewhere for us to express our favorites  :)


Make sure to tune in also, details are on the site!

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Date:934a - 05|19|08
Subject:Queer Liberationist or Gay Assimilationist?

There are two opposing political viewpoints when it comes to advocacy and than of course there are a variety of more moderate middleground opinions that fall in between the Queer Liberationists and Gay Assimilationist camps.

Gay Assimilationists - This ideology is to make gay/lesbian people seem like average, normal everyday citizens in the eyes of the general public. They want to make the case that gay families deserve equal rights and recognition and they want what everyone else wants: a house with a white picket fence and 2.5 kids. Some Gay Assimilationists are not inclusive of Bisexuals or Transgender people because they feel these groups hurt the gay rights movement. This is not the case for all Assimilationists and many seek to include all LGBT people and create a sense of assimilation into the general society. Gay Assimilationists often seek to advance their agenda through corporate sponsorships and see getting big business and government on their side as a way to advance equality. The assimilationists strive to paint the LGBT community as being no different than the heterosexual world and just want to fit in. They want the rights to marriage, the rights to adoption, to serve freely and openly in the military. Part of achieving these means, Gay Assimilationists seek to tone down the sexual aspect of gay pride, they feel that sexuality is one component of gay relationships and seek to emphasize much more the loving, financial, community, and faith based aspects of LGBT relationships.

Queer Liberationists - This camp of political theory views gender and sexuality in non-conformist ways. They do not apologize for the differences of Queer individuals and do not seek to "fit in". They embrace the idea of "We're Here, We're Queer, Get Used to it!" and believe society must change to accept them rather than they change to mold into hetero-normative society. Queer Liberationists are often but not always concerned with Queer issues as they relate not only to LGBT people but also to capitalism, anti-militarism, sexism, racism and other aspects of social justice. They are less concerned with same-sex marriage, adoption, and don't ask don't tell. Many times but not always they are against the institution of marriage altogether, feel gays are liberated from the idea of raising kids, and are against gays serving in the military because they are anti-military to begin with. Queer Liberationists often disagree with the idea of corporate partnerships and having big business and government intervene in LGBT issues. Queer Liberationists do not seek to hide their sexuality and gender expression, they seek to embrace it and encourage what has conventionally been frowned upon as inappropriate.

These are two diametrically opposed political camps. Most people have various opinions that don't fall so heavily into one party or the other. Where do you lie and what are your thoughts?


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May 13 2008
Date:954a - 05|13|08
Subject:Free Speech Where do We Draw the Line?

A few interesting and controversial headlines have popped up in the news and the gay blogosphere that raise some important questions. At what point is gay activism intruding upon free speech and freedom of expression rights? Freedom of speech and expression must be protected even for anti-gay forces, because if we don't have these basic freedoms it becomes a slippery slope and eventually we will not have the right to express our opinions.

I write this in light of some stories recently, such as a student who wore a t-shirt to school saying "Be Happy - Not Gay!" at a diversity event, who got in trouble. The courts have since ruled she is entitled to wear the shirt.

What about Crystal Dixon's case with the University of Toledo V.P. of Human Resources who outside the university wrote an opinion column denouncing homosexuality, claiming it is a choice. She has been fired under grounds that she mentioned she was a worker at the school and is now suing the school.

Finally there was the case at Smith College, where the College Republicans brought in Ryan Sorba who created a book called "The Born Gay Hoax" who spoke about bogus research regarding LGBT people. Students interrupted his anti-gay speech by screaming "We're Here, We're Queer, get used to it" the student protesters overwhelmed the room forcing Mr. Sorba to leave the campus and cancel his speech.

Youtube clip of the Smith protest:

What do you think about GLBT activism and where do we draw the line to ensure free speech rights, or is it okay to intrude upon the free speech of others when they seek to intrude on our civil liberties and spread falsehoods about our community?



May 11 2008
Date:143a - 05|11|08
Subject:"Voices Against 377" - Human Rights for Singapore!

‘Voices Against 377 is a coalition of Non Governmental Organisations (NGO) and progressive groups based in Delhi. It is a point of intersection and dialogue between various social movements that these groups represent, where a united voice is being articulated against Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code which criminalizes private consensual sexual acts deemed to be against the order of nature.

Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code is cited below:

“377. Unnatural Offences.
Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal, shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to ten years, and shall also be liable to fine.”

The law penalizes certain sexual acts equally. For example oral sex, regardless of whether it is heterosexual or homosexual; even penile-masturbation of one person by another – is considered criminal. Although facially neutral, the law has effectively stigmatized and criminalized a section more than others, namely same-sex desiring people, including those who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT), hijra, kothi and other Queer people. The law has been used by the police to intimidate same sex desiring people and has been a source of serious human rights violations."

Take action on the issue sign the petition:

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May 06 2008
Date:1111a - 05|06|08
Subject:Introducing Queers United

The activist blog with action alerts for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Asexual, and Intersexual community!



March 20 2008
Date:731p - 03|20|08
Subject:What happened to the horse buggery post?

I must say, it had the exceptional quality of making me lose my lunch before having even eaten it.

More, please.


March 18 2008
Date:934p - 03|18|08
Mood: curious

happy to be a part of the community : D

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Date:620p - 03|18|08
Subject:For young GLBTQ folks with Asperger's syndrome
Mood: happy

Hi, I'm interested in starting some sort of resource guide for other young gay men (or simply young people who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, questioning, etc.) with Asperger's syndrome. Any ideas of what form this should take? A new LiveJournal community? A collection of pieces written by young GLBTQ Aspies to publish somewhere? And if you would like to participate, are there specific topics you'd like to discuss?


February 28 2008
Date:154a - 02|28|08
Subject:[NYC] Sunday 3/2: Don't let the spoilsports at AOH ruin YOUR St Pat's
Mood: stoked

Instead come join the 9th Annual multicultural & welcoming St Patrick's Parade & Irish Fair held on the afternoon of Sunday, March 2nd 2008 in the friendly multi-ethnic community of Sunnyside QueensCollapse )

And for the more politically inclined here is the Press Release from Irish Queers about what will be happening on 5th Avenue at the AOH Parade on Monday March 17th 2008Collapse )

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January 14 2008
Date:145a - 01|14|08
Subject:where do i begin?
Mood: confused

hi there.

i'm having a little difficulty at the moment, to say the least. for years i have been identifying myself as bi, and most of my experience has been with men. however, last year i became properly involved with another woman for the first time, and now i can't imagine ever wanting to be intimate with a man again. i guess you could say that i'm a bit of a late developer. looking back, i'm not sure i ever was really that interested, i purely got involved with men because i'd not experienced any alternative. being with a woman for the first time just felt 'right', and now i've experienced something that good, i couldn't ever go back again. i was with this girl for eight months, but she left me for someone else just before christmas. i am still pretty devastated about this but i want to get back 'out there'. however, she and i got together purely by chance, having been friends first, and we just sort of fell into a relationship.

as pathetic as this might sound, i really have no idea of how to go about meeting girls, especially as the town that i live in is not exactly the most forward-thinking! i've tried going to gay clubs and bars, but i've had very little interest so far because i don't seem to have the right 'look' and most people that i've spoken to just assume that i'm straight. i like being feminine, i like high heels, skirts and corsets, i have long hair and like doing my make up. i don't want to have to change that just to attract someone, because that's not me, but i also want to fit in. i'm not especially attracted to butch girls either. i like my women to look like women! it would be pretty naive of me to go out 'looking for love', but i'd at least like to know how to go about meeting like-minded people.

on top of all this i've tried to come out to my mother and she keeps trying to tell me that i'm just going through a phase. she doesn't realise that if i'm honest with myself, i've always felt this way, but i get so embarassed talking to my mum about my sex life that i can't really explain myself to her in an articulate way.

i joined this community in the hope that someone can lend me a sympathetic ear, or give me some advice. maybe both. either way, i'm finding it really hard to talk about this to my friends and sometimes it's just easier to tell things to someone who doesn't know you. this might not be an appropriate forum to discuss such things, but i thought i'd give it a go anyway.

sorry if all that was a bit long and rambling, but i'm quite mixed up at the moment.

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December 15 2007
Date:326a - 12|15|07
Subject:and the Nominations Are . . .
Mood: enthralled

Good News for all you Bi Book-Lovers out there, here is a list of the current (2008) nominees for the Lambda Literary Awards (aka "the Lammies") in the Bisexual category. Buy them, read them, love them, cherish them. They tell the stories of our lives.

click here to see the list of this year's nominated books, their authors & publishersCollapse )


December 06 2007
Date:235a - 12|06|07
Subject:[USA] Invitation - Academic Survey (LGBTQ)

My partner and I are conducting a national LGBTQ survey and will be presenting the results at a political science conference in New Orleans this January. I was hoping that you would consider filling it out and then passing it along to any friends/family/acquaintances who also identify as LGBTQ and/or posting it to your bulletin.

Thanks in advance!

Details below.......

You are invited to participate in an academic study examining the social and political attitudes and behaviors of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) individuals. As not much is known about the LGBTQ population in the United States, it is important to capture attitudes and behaviors in order to determine if there is indeed a distinctive culture that has the ability to wield social and political influence. Unfortunately, past studies have been geared on the attitudes towards this group, and not actually of the LGBTQ population. Because there has been very little research done in this area, your participation is incredibly important.

After you have completed the survey, we strongly encourage you to forward this survey to your friends, family, and acquaintances that also identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer.

The survey takes approximately 10 minutes to complete.


Or paste this entire link into your Internet browser:


The researchers conducting this study are a graduate student of political science at California State University, Chico and a doctoral student of political science at the University of New Orleans.

The survey is conducted online with tools in place to ensure that your answers are completely anonymous. Your identity will not be disclosed to anyone, including the researchers. Your participation is completely voluntary and you may skip any questions that may cause you emotional distress, or end the survey at any time by simply clicking on the End Survey link. There is no material benefit for participating in this survey.

Please feel free to conduct the researchers with any questions or concerns you may have regarding this survey.

Anna R. Ball
MA Candidate, Political Science
California State University , Chico

Robynn M. Kuhlmann, MA
PhD Student, Political Science
University of New Orleans


November 27 2007
Date:528a - 11|27|07
Subject:Nudist Guy Here...

Hello, my name is Arby Arthur, and I'm a divorced bi-sexual guy in my 40s from Northern California. I'm also a full-time nudist, though I prefer to call it Clothing Impaired.

I suppose I've always been Clothing Impaired. Ever since I was a small child, I've had a dislike for unnecessary coverings. Fortunately, my mother was okay with my obvious preference for playing and sleeping naked, and Dad was away too much to really know what was happening at home. I got away with staying naked much of the time until age 10 or 11, except during school hours of course. The neighbor kids simply accepted me for who I was, as children often do. "Arby hates pants", they would explain with childlike simplicity to anyone who questioned my lack of conventional attire, and I would silently nod in agreement. I never let the giggling or staring distract me a wit, for I knew God was proud of my body and it's functions. After all, I was made in HIS image!

I began sleeping in the nude in the first or second grade. Today I live much the same, spending as much of my time naked as possible. Living without clothing allows me to be me, free and open both physically and emotionally. A person's home is his castle, and in my home, and anywhere else where I'm told it's okay, I laugh and I cry... I play and I rest... I live and I love... Naked, Free, and Uninhibited.

If you're either nudist-friendly or nudist-curious, please add me as a friend. I also welcome questions about my open and uninhibited lifestyle. All will be answered completely and honestly, without embarassment or shame.

I am Clothing Impaired and Unashamed.

Check out my blog: http://arbyarthur.livejournal.com/


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